Most teenage girls are very much attracted to older, sophisticated, and rather good looking men. but what does it mean when it’s your band director?
I am a 16 year old junior, I play trombone, want to march DCI (Drum Corps. Int. percussion and brass marching corps.) and I aspire to go to FSU, and I want to devote my life to music; teaching it, learning about it, making it.
He is a 24 year old band director, who plays trombone, marched DCI with the one corp. I want to march, graduated from the college I want into so badly, teaches music, and has an ipod full of classical, baroque, Gregorian chants, every kind of the most amazing music I could imagine. He is a sci-fi nerd (which just makes him cuter)
This man is the most amazing man I have ever met.
Sometime I can spend hours with him in his office looking up new trombones(which I so desperately need), having him answer my musical questions, or even just chatting while he plays EverQuest (like I said…nerd). There will be times where I will be sitting/standing and practicing one small thing in a piece of music and he will come over with his trombone and help/play it with me. In wind ensemble, with the other director, we need to do pass offs for our band grade. One of them was being given one week to prepare a piece of his choice. While the person before me goes into the office, the young director (the one I’ve been talking about this whole time) sees that I’m next and grabs his trombone and darts out the door to come help me and give me last minute pointers to make sure I do it to the best I can (he hadn’t done that with anyone else).
While I know I have a thing for him (which I’m not exactly sure what it is), I cannot tell if it’s just him trying to help me be the best I can be or if he actually likes me. I cannot ask him and I can’t exactly look for hints because he can’t drop any…he’s a teacher and students and teachers are not allowed to be dating.
My questions are:
Do I have a crush on my band director or am I just obsessed?
Does it seem like he might have a thing for me or is it just him being a good teacher?
Is it even logical to keep this kind of mind set up when I wouldn’t be able to even consider dating him for a year or 18 months from now?
Should I wait for him?
I realize that this was a very long post and I thank you for taking the time to read it and consider aiding me in my slight
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Re: crushing on the band director
Posted 2/7/10 4:49:33 pm
Re: crushing on the band director
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Re: crushing on the band director
Posted 2/8/10 1:11:01 am
Aww man! I hear that one in a life, a boy will fall for an older women, and vise versa. MAYBE it is a crush. Dyou feel like smiling and happy whenever u see him? Then, its a crush. It is logical to like a person even if u wont B with them. Its a beautiful thing. I dont think he likes u, but at the same time, i might b wrong!!!
Re: crushing on the band director
Posted 2/8/10 7:52:56 am
When you spend a lot of time with a person of the opposite sex that is not a family member, you will usually fall for them unless they are discustingly gross.
As for band...it's great and all. I was huge into band in high school and was the best sax player, really good at jazz, etc.
When it came time to make a choice between going to college to become an engineer so that I could make good money or continue with music and go on to be a great jazz musician...I took the smart route and became an engineer.
Best decision of my life. Music is a hobby, treat it that way. Hardly anyone listens to jazz, and the best I could have done was playing in night clubs in exchange for free drinks. Instead, I made enough money to buy my own bar and bring in musical talent from all over the country to play.
If you can get a scholarship for music...that's great. Use it to get a degree in something useful.
As for band...it's great and all. I was huge into band in high school and was the best sax player, really good at jazz, etc.
When it came time to make a choice between going to college to become an engineer so that I could make good money or continue with music and go on to be a great jazz musician...I took the smart route and became an engineer.
Best decision of my life. Music is a hobby, treat it that way. Hardly anyone listens to jazz, and the best I could have done was playing in night clubs in exchange for free drinks. Instead, I made enough money to buy my own bar and bring in musical talent from all over the country to play.
If you can get a scholarship for music...that's great. Use it to get a degree in something useful.
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Posted 2/8/10 6:00:55 pm
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